Sean is the primary income earner for his family, and his wife cares for their two small children.  Sean came home after a long day at work to find the house in utter chaos.  Out of exhaustion and disappointment, he asked his wife what she had been doing all day.  She curtly responded, “Keeping our children alive.”  Sean, properly chided, went to the kitchen to start making dinner.  Hannah had been sitting in the staff meeting listening to her supervisor being praised for the success of the PR event last week.  She had put in hours on that event, and her supervisor did not mention her creative and physical input at all during the meeting.  Susan complained to a fellow co-worker on the way back to her office, rolling her eyes about how self-centered her supervisor can be.  That afternoon, her supervisor sent her an email that apologized for not mentioning her name at the staff meeting; he had been distracted by a death in the family.  Sam had been working at the Habitat construction site for a couple of months, and rarely saw the homeowner who was supposed to be putting sweat equity hours into her home.  One day, Sam complained to the site supervisor about how the homeowner must be falling behind on her sweat equity hours.  The site supervisor explained that the homeowner had a rare disease the prevented her from doing physical labor, so she had been doing her hours in the Habitat office.  In fact, the supervisor had heard that she had been so productive, that the office staff was struggling to find enough work for her to do. 

Just like Sam, Hannah, and Sean, holy scripture today is going to, as pop singer Lizzo would say, get us into our feelings.  I am not sure if Martha and Mary’s story gets me into my feelings because the story involves women arguing about stereotypical gender roles, or if Jesus’ lack of support and criticism of Martha is so biting, or if I just see too much of myself in Martha, but this story puts all my defenses on high alert.  If Martha and Mary’s story today has you similarly anxious, uncomfortable, or defensive, do me a favor and take a deep breath. 

Starting with the text will help.  On the surface, this is a story about an older sibling, Martha, taking on all the household work while the younger sister, Mary, sits with Jesus, enjoying the luxury of learning from Jesus while Martha does all the work.  But in verse 40, the translation we have says Martha is distracted by her many tasks.  Now according to scholars, the Greek translation actually says something more like, “Martha is ‘distracted by much ministry.’”[i]  This is not a critique of stereotypically gendered work women must do.  Martha is not just distracted by preparing food, cleaning the house, and making beds for disciples.  Martha is doing the sacred, faithful work of hospitality – a crucial act of ministry.  Later, Jesus says Martha is “worried and distracted by many things…”  Here, the Greek word for “worry” is “‘strangle’ or ‘seize by the throat’ and ‘tear.’  The root meaning of the word ‘distraction’ is a dragging apart of something that should be whole.  These are [two] violent words.  Words that wound and fracture.  States of mind that render us incoherent, divided, and un-whole.”[ii]

Now let’s take another breath.  This story is not about who is the better sibling, whether women’s work is inferior to men’s work, or even about judgment of identity for us Marthas in the room.  This is a story about how all of us have ministries – ministries of discipleship that involve learning and action, of studying the Word and showing Christian hospitality to strangers, of speeding up and slowing down.  What Jesus is really concerned about is our intention around our discipleship.  The question is not if we are doing God’s work, but how we are doing God’s work.[iii]  According to Debie Thomas, Martha is in “such a state of fragmentation, a condition in which she cannot enjoy [Jesus’] company, savor his presence, find inspiration in her work, receive anything he wishes to offer her, or show him genuine love.  Instead, all she can do is question his love…fixate on herself…, and triangulate.”  Martha seems to think she can “invite Jesus into her life – and then carry on with that life as usual, maintaining control, privileging her own priorities, and clinging to her long-cherished agendas and schedules.”  And unfortunately, “That’s not how discipleship works.”[iv]

Perhaps after we have taken one last long breath, we can let go of our feelings and start to ask some questions.  How are we approaching our ministry these days?  Are we so wrapped up in our assumptions about other people’s behaviors that we have forgotten to look at our own?  Have we invited Jesus into our lives, but only under our own set of requirements and strictures?  After we have gotten into our feelings, Martha, Mary, and Jesus invite us today to take that breath and refocus[v].  Maybe we need to take some more time at Jesus’ feet, praying, reading scripture, coming to church, or joining something like Faith and Film.  Maybe we need to look at those dinner plates as an invitation to prayer, holding dear the bodies that will be fed by our labor.  Maybe we need step out of our controlled kitchens and go serve up a meal at Meals on Wheels or at From His Hands.  Jesus graciously handles our feelings every day.  But Jesus also knows that when we start looking at how we are doing our ministries, the real, life-giving, whole-making discipleship will come.  Amen.

[i] Amy-Jill Levine and Ben Witherington, III, The Gospel of Luke: New Cambridge Bible Commentary (Cambridge:  Cambridge University Press, 2018), 297.

[ii] Debie Thomas, Into the Mess & Other Jesus Stories:  Reflections on the Life of Christ (Eugene, Oregon:  Cascade Books, 2022), 51.

[iii] Matthew L. Skinner, “Exegetical Perspective,” Feasting on the Word, Yr. C., Vol. 3 (Louisville: Westminster John Knox Press, 2010), 265 and 267.

[iv] Thomas, 51.

[v] James A. Wallace, “Homiletical Perspective,” Feasting on the Word, Yr. C., Vol. 3 (Louisville: Westminster John Knox Press, 2010), 265.